I've been married for 6 years this year. And for probably all six years I've occasionally felt that marriage is unfair, unequal, blah, blah, blah. I always felt mad when things weren't going the way I wanted them to, that I had to change (sounds a little selfish) to try and fix it. Why didn't my husband have to work as hard on our marriage as I was?
The truth: he was. He is.
The injustices I kept seeing were failed attempts at communication on my part, on his part, on both our parts. No matter how awesome I am, I can't read minds and never will be able too darn it. If something is bothering me, it's my problem and I need to change or fix it; which could be as simple as asking him about it.
This was my ah-ha moment.
That's a great ah-ha moment to have! I've had very similar revelations throughout my marriage and it seems like each time, just a little piece of my selfishness falls away. Don't get me wrong, I still have PLENTY of selfishness left to go, but I like a challenge. ;-)
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